The rules of 'for girl' and 'for boy' have changed significantly in the last few years. More and more parents are choosing to raise their children without gender limiting rules. Blue isn't always for boys anymore, and pink isn't just for girls.

Unfortunately the world of greeting cards (specifically the BIG classic companies) hasn't quite caught up. Cards that are red and blue and have fire trucks come with a "boy birthday" header, and the frozen cards with the glitter stickers say "Girl Birthday". How do you shop for the perfect card when there seem to be gender rules placed on so many of them?

In the interest of helping you, our lovely customers, broaden your selection, here are a few tips on how to shop for greeting cards the gender-free way.

Just a few cards that could could be for anyone.

Just a few cards that could could be for anyone.

1. Ignore the headers.
Honestly, we get rid of a lot of them anyway. But we do have sections of cards, like our shoebox birthday, that have 'for him' and 'for her'. Look, we leave those headers there so that people don't get too lost. But there are some hilarious cards in there that you could give to people of both genders. So next time you're looking for a birthday card for your super fabulous GBFF, take a peek at the 'for her' cards. some of them are just labeled that way because they have glitter and sparkles on them. whatever. don't let those labels control you!

2. Don't be afraid to edit a card!
So there is one card in particular that gets me every time. It's a card for a dad that's like "Thanks for helping to learn how to use a drill and build stuff" (but more poetically) and it says in the card "from your son." A) I know for sure that I am not the only girl here who would like to thank her parent for teaching me how to use tools. B) Personally I would like to thank my MOTHER for that, because she was the woodworker in the family. So here's the deal. Some times there will be a card that says the perfect thing in it, but like 2 of the words are wrong. (He instead of She; Son instead of Daughter; Wife instead of Husband; and so on.) So CHANGE the words!!! Get a sticker or maybe just a sharpie and make some edits. because the point of a card is to find one that say the perfect thing for you and your loved one. And sometimes card companies don't quite get it right.

Look at all these awesome things that don't say girl or boy!

Look at all these awesome things that don't say girl or boy!

3. Know your kids when you're choosing cards!
Or if you don't, don't just assume that the little girl in your son's class that is having a birthday party likes pink tiaras. We have a huge variety of kids cards. Some of them say 'girl' and 'boy' in or on them, but some of them just have the cast of Cars or Frozen on them. And I know like a million little boys who just love Frozen. If you don't know the child you're buying for well enough to know if they like particular animated movies, don't worry! we have lots of cards that just have cute  bears on them or dragons. Boys AND girls like bears and dragons. srsly.

4. Check out new card lines!
You can find hallmark cards anywhere. But we have so many other amazing card lines, like Frantic Meercat, Seltzer, or Ripe! Some of these small card companies have progressed in the gender game far more quickly than the big companies. You can find plenty of cards that are laugh your ass off hilarious, but aren't gender defined at all. In fact, KU has a few of our own card lines that are just serious fun. We have meme cards, nerd cards, and cards for every holiday under the sun. Some times, the perfect birthday card is something like our Duran Duran day card, or Dr. Seuss day card!

Yes. All of these are cards. even that cookie.

Yes. All of these are cards. even that cookie.

5. When in doubt, check out the blank cards.
We have some absolutely fantastic cards that are blank inside. They don't try to be a him or her thing. They are just super cute or super sparkly, and just all around goodness. So when the cards with all the words aren't doing anything for you, find a card with a pretty picture and a short message and then fill up the inside with your own awesome words.

Good luck, everyone! We can change the world one card at a time.

So, what do you think?